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Wed, 01-6-10 - 3:21pm by j_ernst
you can have my absense of faith
2. giving me advice based on their personal religious beliefs
3. preaching to me/talking to me about morality
Now, I realize that often when people are talking to me about religion, they mean it in an endearing way. They want to share the love with me despite my lack of faith. But honestly, that is exactly why it pisses me off. Too often when people say they will pray for me or give me lessons on right and wrong, they do it assuming I share their beliefs or that their beliefs are superior to my own. If I were to retort and say something like, 'Well, I won't pray for you because I don't believe in it," and meant that as an endearing, sharing-the-love type gesture, I'm sure nobody would really appreciate it, because they believe prayer is good, and thus by no means should my beliefs overcome their own. I don't think it's that endearing to ignore someone's personal beliefs in favor of your own.
Maybe a better way of handling the situation would be to find out what religion they are, and wish them whatever good you can according to that religion. For instance, you wouldn't wish a Jewish person Merry Christmas...
But when it comes to being a non-believer, everyone wants to steer you in one direction or another. I didn't asked to be saved. I have a sense of right and wrong outside of religion. I'm not trying to convince anyone to NOT believe in god- so please do the same for me. I'd rather just have a mutual respect for each other regardless of religious affiliation.
I also feel like I am not allowed to contradict people for fear of being rude. If someone says something like, "let the lord bless you," I'm supposed to smile and thank them. But if I ever were to say, "i am thanking the big bang for your creation and for creating the materials that are now steering you down the correct path in life," I feel like I would hear some complaints (not that I would ever ACTUALLY say this).
So why is it that it's more acceptable to express religion than to express a lack thereof? I'm so scared to offend, but feel like my views are constantly being trampled on. I just don't believe in anything! Why can't people accept that?!
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Thu, 01-07-10 - 02:32 pm by su
You seem to be a very
You seem to be a very troubled young girl. Respecting believes has to do with smiling when someone wishes you something good phrasing it or dressing it in a religious matter. What they are saying transmits a wish that something good comes your way and that is their way to do it...as someone who doesnt speak english would wish you well in their own language...are you gonna be mad at them too cos you dont speak their language even though you know they are wishing you something good?? You can either wish them the same or dont say anything. Im sorry people wish you good in the streets in that way, I honestly hope it doesnt happen again....maybe that will make you feel better.
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Sun, 01-24-10 - 05:21 pm by j_ernst
my personal philosophy is being a decent human being outside of religion. i can wish someone well without involving my religion in it at all, and that's what i do. it's not that i don't appreciate nice things, it's that nice things are often done with hidden agendas and disrespect. can't tell you how many times i've been told i'll go to hell because of my beliefs even though i spend alot of time and effort trying to make a positive change in the world. i guess that doesn't mean anything. and i guess i can't get mad at them or express my own beliefs because i will offend everyone and further solidify the fact that i am going to hell.
i am not troubled, i am questioning something. i think people should be aware of various beliefs instead of stuck in their own. i think understanding promotes appreciation more than anything else. i have been forced to compromise my religious beliefs my whole life. i think people can take a little compromise.
Wed, 01-06-10 - 07:12 pm by Benji17
People should not push their
People should not push their religious beliefs on others-be it casually or in the name of war. However most people feel it is acceptable to do so because they think they are helping you. Yes, it is rude, but followers of religions are often rude beacuse they think they are securing that place in heaven by doing so; it's OK to be overbearing beacuse their god said so.
And as annoying as it is, it is sometimes necessary to compromise your own feelings and just let yourself get blessed and be done with it.
It may not be the right thing to do, but it saves on crazy arguments that will never be resolved. Of course, I am not one to say that you shouldn't uphold your thoughts when provoked. A blessing is one thing, shoving your beliefs on others is another & should be addressed if it makes you feel uncomforatble. A simple "I feel religion is a private matter" should halt coninuing discussion.
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